How effective are you at asking for help? Men are notoriously bad at this and being a man, I must admit to having done a lot in my life to lend credence to the stereotype. But why?
What makes people not ask for help? I imagine there are a number of causes, but several which come immediately to mind are: a ferocious sense of responsibility, an unwillingness to make oneself vulnerable, a concern not to overload others, insufficient trust in others’ ability to get the job done, arrogance, poor delegation skills, fear of failure, fear of success, and the list goes on.
While it may seem obvious that we need one another, that no man is complete unto himself, it is easy to lose sight of the value of collaboration in the heat of the moment, especially if those heated moments last for more than just a moment. It is easy to fall into the habit of trying to do everything oneself, but that approach is fundamentally self-limiting and ultimately self-destructive. A person can only stretch himself so far.
To reprove this habit there must be a willingness to address the underlying causes. To be sure, blaming your circumstances never resolves the issues contained in them. Asking for help may get the ball rolling, but the change in approach must typically go deeper, to the level of repentance, if there is to be any lasting change.