“Nothing is so mistaken as the supposition that a person is to extricate himself from a difficulty by intrigue, by chicanery, by dissimulation, by trimming, by an untruth, by an injustice. This increases the difficulties tenfold; and those who pursue these methods get themselves so involved at length that they can turn no way by their infamy becomes more exposed.” – Thomas Jefferson
While meditating on the implications of my recent post on Generative Living, it occurred to me that many cycles which would have otherwise led to the correction of a deviation or the overcoming of a difficulty are aborted because of a common, but devastating habit. This habit – trying to extricate oneself from a difficulty by intrigue, chicanery, dissimulation, trimming, untruth or injustice – short-circuits the cycle of regeneration in its earliest phases.
Failure on this point means that the person does not move from recognizing the need for change to the next crucial point: taking the need to heart. Instead of taking the matter to heart, the person instead directs all his energies to making it look as though someone or something else was responsible for making the change so obviously needed.
The more effective, honorable and therefore more manly, or womanly approach, is to take the recognized need swiftly and graciously to heart. With the matter thus contained in the safe harbor of the womb of the heart, it can be pondered, free of the obfuscating influences of blame, accusation and denial.
This, dear friends, is the atmosphere in which true repentance is born.