If you’ve lived any amount of time on earth, you’ve been hurt by another. Whether the injury was caused by someone near and dear or relatively unknown, the pain is real when hearts are broken, trust is violated or feelings are hurt. Feeling this pain is normal and to be expected.
That said, you must be careful never to wallow in this state for long. You mustn’t linger. Employing ignoble tactics such as revenge, self-pity or any one of the various forms of hatred that are commonly put to work at such times may give temporary relief from the pain, but they do not possess the curative power necessary to making a full recovery. You have to find a dignified way to move on.
When you have a hard time letting go your cup slowly but surely begins to spill over, not with joy but with suffering. Other areas of your life begin to be affected, or “infected” by this debilitating state of being. Your relationships at home and at work, your physical and mental health and your ability to handle future challenges are all eventually compromised. It’s not a question of “if,” it’s a question of “when.”
The ability to let go honorably is one of the hallmarks of one who lives impeccably. It is not always the easiest route, but it is the most certain.
“If you’re going through hell, keep going.” ~ Winston Churchill
Gregory Hake 
The ability to let go’s signature quality is “the removal of emotional attachment” to even the smallest of things.
Something I find myself asking more often than not is, “is this really worth becoming emotionally involved with” For typically when the emotions begin to move that is when the opportunity is ripe to “Let Go”.
The release of emotional attachment to the things of this world is far more rewarding than that of buying into the emotion and ending up 3 steps back ….at least!
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I know that it is as we graciously let go of the past, that we are able to embrace the now, and consequently allow the future to be changed not only for ourselves, but for the betterment of humanity.
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Thanks for the reminder in regards to sowing and reaping. You have to think why in the world would we hold on to something that destroys us. Such an odd thing. As with healing somethings take time but healing can only occur as we honor our integrity.
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Whenever I reflect on those words “living with honor” and see them put in such a compelling light, my whole being softens and any challenge, fear or complexity is immediately put in a more balanced perspective for true honor is the beginning place that allows you to do the best that you can do and be the best that you can be – and that certainly is the best that you anyone can hope for.
To honor – salud!
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This is where forgiveness becomes the salve for the one that gives it. You can’t nurse a broken heart with anything lower, the only way to go is up. This is the time to look at your life and see where you can give. Focusing on something creative is like magic, it automatically engages our higher selves. Opportunity for this could be at work, home or maybe a new venue such as volunteer work. I’ve seen friends teach illiterate adults to read or help at a local animal shelter and literally their lives changed. This is a crossroad that everyone comes to and as with most paths there’s the high road and the low. To really move onward and upward it has to be the high road!
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As Francis Bacon put it, ,”The man that studieth revenge keeps his own wounds green.” I’ve never known anyone (including myself) who hasn’t been hurt or felt wronged by someone else. Never have I seen someone happy who has sought to take revenge or badmouth another. I’ve always been impressed by those who take the high road and are more concerned with how they handle this themselves, than seeking revenge, complaining or cursing others. This post is beautiful and I love the honorable approach to life.
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Everyone will have the experience of being hurt in their life. It is not that that sets us apart, but it is how we handle being hurt. Are you big enough to learn a lesson from even the most skewed correction? Because we can learn something from even the worst things that are done to us. Instead of trying to get revenge, etc., look to see if you can use it as an opportunity to make yourself even better.
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I recieved a quote from a colleague of mine yesterday that goes along with what you are saying here Colin – nice touch!
“Forgiveness is almost a selfish act because of its immense benefits to the one who forgives.” Lawana Blackwell
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