The Courage to Face Ingratitude II

Gratitude is thankfulness expressed in action. It is the instructive radiation of justice, giving new life and energy to the individual from whom it emanates. It is the heart’s recognition of kindness that the lips cannot repay. Gratitude never counts its payments. It realizes the no debt of kindness can ever be outlawed, ever be cancelled, ever paid in full. Gratitude ever feels the insignificance of its installments; ingratitude the nothingness of debt. Gratitude is the flowering of a seed of kindness; ingratitude is the dead inactivity of a seed dropped on a stone.” ~ William George Jordan

I recently overheard someone say “I’m sick and tired of being kind to him. I’m going to give him what he deserves.” Such statements are a harbinger of ingratitude and a hotbed of every manner of ill spirit.

True kindness invigorates the individual from whom it emanates, despite popular opinion that being kind, doing good deeds and serving others is a tiring and tiresome business. You have infinite supply of kindness within you and the idea that there is only so much of it in you to go around is a failure to recognize the nature of who you really are.

If you get worn down in your effort to be a blessing to others, you’re likely predicating your expression on the expectation of some result. Nobody likes unrequited love, for as Charles Schulz once lamented “Nothing takes the taste out of peanut butter quite like unrequited love.” When your love is absorbed into a black hole of another’s ingratitude, it is easy to succumb to the vortex of disappointment or devastation if you are not careful to remember that you are designed to give freely of yourself, without expectation of results.

You are wise to remember that you have an endless supply of thankfulness in you. It is not a resource per se, because it has neither limited availability nor potential for depletion. Thankfulness is simply evidence of the presence of the life that is in you. When the real you is obscured by false personas or attitudes that are inconsistent with the true nature of life, thankfulness will be present in potential, but limited in manifestation.

You are thankful at the core but you have to reveal it to know it.

11 thoughts on “The Courage to Face Ingratitude II

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  2. DeeDee Miller

    “If you get worn down in your effort to be a blessing to others, you’re likely predicating your expression on the expectation of some result.” This sentence knocked me over. I have known that feeling before! And now I know why (it doesn’t have anything to do with the other person, as much as I would have like to pass it off as such). Another great post to move onward and upward by. Thanks!


  3. Ricardo B.

    Fortune favors the brave and grateful, because it is synched up with the essence of life. In union with your essence, you are in the flow, in the zone, or however you wish to describe it. Social norms the way they are today, condition people to expect a ‘reward’ for a good deed done. Like a treat. I think that has to do with our more baser impulses, not our higher natures. To me, it comes down to the question of belief, as in do we really believe we are crafted from the divine? Have we spent enough time in deep contemplation of this? Enough to cause a change in our attitudes and awareness of ourselves?
    Simple intellectual recognition and affirmation doesn’t cut it; the mind just can’t go deep enough. It has to involve heart, thus courage and also spirit, thus thankfulness. Here there can be the awakening of a new belief to displace a previous belief, the kind instilled in us from culture and society, for if they are not in harmony with the new belief we are talking about, then there is friction and one can only hold one primary paradigm in consciousness without developing some kind of illness. A transformation is what is needed, where there is synergy in feeling, thought and deed.


  4. Vincent

    That our own hearts should consistently be motivated by the spirit of gratefulness is not a question. Thankful appreciation is central to our fundamental nature, and to violate that nature because of what we perceive in another is to violate ourselves. On the other hand, whether or not another will receive that fine expression of creativity, blessing and upliftment is always a question.

    It doesn’t help anything to try to force others to receive our helpful expression – like the earnest boy scout dragging the reluctant old lady across the street in order to fulfil his vow of helpfulness! We use discretion and wisdom in application – no pearls before swine, but not because we judge others as swine! We are always concerned with what fits, what can work, what can be received, and we never need become concerned with what won’t fit, can’t be received or doesn’t work. Here is the practicality of love made manifest!


  5. Colin

    This is a great way to make sure that other people cannot limit your life expression. Thankfulness is yours, and does not depend on anyone else for its existence. It is not even necessarily a two party idea, because all you need is yourself. a
    Although it probably shouldn’t be the reason that you maintain a thankful attitude, it is good to know that when you do maintain thankfulness, even in the face of unrequited love, you allow yourself a strong connection to life’s energy. It is a foundation that no one can take away but you, and it is vital if you are looking to live an effective life.


  6. happytobehere

    The first time you feel ingratitude directed to you it is surprising and can feel as a slap or if they are really two-faced make you feel sick to your stomach. I’ve realized if I don’t expect gratitude this does’t happen. If they are appreciative good for them they will receive all that comes with that and if they aren’t the same is true for them. When it does happen you do feel the imbalance of it. It’s a definite lesson in what NOT to do! Great series thanks.


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