The Ascending Spiral

There exists a remarkable parallel between raising children and schooling horses. Both horses and people move through a period of intense physical development in their youth, followed by mental and emotional growth and maturation. Handled rightly, this process oscillates back and forth between tension and relaxation. In the moment it might feel like you are …

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Energy, Discipline, Spirit

Managing people, like training horses or parenting, is all about harnessing energy and teaching discipline, while preserving spirit. The best managers, like the best trainers, possess a remarkable capacity for empathy and their high expectations are never lowered by sympathy. I have no doubt that there is a marvelous spirit resident within each and every …

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Big Decisions

My sons, aged 5 and 6, had an interesting conversation at breakfast the other day. They got on the topic of thinking and feeling somehow (I came in part way through) and my youngest made the declaration "Daddy, feeling is definitely more important than thinking!" My oldest, who is as siblings often are wired completely …

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Where I grew up we didn’t…

You've no doubt heard conversations in which people define themselves, defend their positions and deride others with the statement "Where I grew up we didn't..." What follows is usually some anecdote that serves to make a point which carries the weight of precedent and by extension, history. While it is certainly true that you are …

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On Parenting and Flying

"Prepare for the unknown, unexpected and inconceivable . . . after 50 years of flying I'm still learning every time I fly." ~ Gene Cernan I've learned a great many lessons as an aviator over the years, all of which have left me a better pilot. What I didn't expect, however, is that those experiences …

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On Parenting and Falconry

While I am inclined to favor the cultivation of personal responsibility over the imposition of regulation, I cannot help but note the irony of the fact that to practice the sport of falconry you must first obtain a license that comes only on the completion of a challenging and comprehensive written examination and a two …

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Winning Friends and Influencing People

Dale Carnegie's best-selling book "How to Win Friends and Influence People" turns 75 this year and its publisher - for better or for worse - is releasing an updated version that deals with the peculiarities of the digital age. Carnegie originally wrote this classic in an era where most communication was face-to-face, so it is …

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The Struggles of Man

"Religion, Society, and Nature—these are the three struggles of man." ~ Victor Hugo If all the human activity undertaken in the course of a day, month or year were put in a pot still and reduced to its fractions, there would be but three fundamental components: religion, society and nature. Every man who has ever …

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