“Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter.” – Mark Twain
Can you imagine a world free of relatives? I certainly can. A carefree world in which people do not judge or criticize themselves based on relativistic notions that have little to nothing to do with their true, inherent nature? Call me naive, but in my mind it matters little if you are short or tall, thick or thin, white or black, male or female, a big thinker or a detail person; what matters most is what you make of what you have.
On a historical note, the industrialization of the fashion industry went a long way to making people feel worse about themselves. Rather than having clothes tailored to complement their assets and downplay their liabilities, most nowadays are doomed to wear clothing designed for some mythical “average” person, clothing that more often than not distorts your image rather than refining it.
Partly owing to this shift and other deeper societal changes, we have become a society obsessed with appearance. As a result, we are increasingly short on substance. To be sure, fine and beautiful things are wonderful, but to stop there misses the point of humanity entirely.
I believe in the value of the individual, regardless of his or her appearance. Moreover, I feel that many people are written off unnecessarily as a result of the narrow-mindedness that relativistic thinking engenders.
The truth of you is absolute, not relative. As such, you are much better off competing with yourself than you are to compete with others. If you “best” your best performance every time you undertake something, you will come to enjoy the peace and inner satisfaction that accompanies eternal progress. If, on the contrary, you are constantly comparing yourself – your appearance and performance – against that of others, you will be perpetually and unconsolably miserable. Jealousy is nothing more than the fear of comparison, and you are better off without both.
That said, there is a mountain of difference between snubbing your nose at those flinging comparisons and saying “I don’t give a crap” versus realizing the limitations of such an approach and saying “It matters not to me.” Disdain of invariably results in subjection to; wise and happy is the man who abstains from arrogance.
You will realize that when you are no longer part of the game, you needn’t “size people up,” for their weaknesses and limitations are meaningless to you. What is important is what they bring to the table, based on their unique and peculiar configuration. Rather than positioning yourself in relation to others or “posturing,” you seek only to complement and draw forth the signature quality of greatness resident in them.
The internal adjustment implied here results in a massive shift in the way you view and interact with the world. You might not see it at first, but give your heart time to be cleansed of the tacky residue left by judgment and comparison and you will be rewarded with a refreshing and deeply satisfying new look at the same old world around you.