“We face up to awful things because we can’t go around them, or forget them. The sooner you say ‘Yes, it happened, and there’s nothing I can do about it,’ the sooner you can get on with your own life. You’ve got children to bring up. So you’ve got to get over it. What we have to get over, somehow we do. Even the worst things.” ― Annie Proulx, The Shipping News
Sometimes in life you face situations that are beyond your control or they are thrust upon you by virtue of those around you, but most of the time you had a say or a part to play in the planting of the field of circumstance in which you live. Unfortunately, you cannot go back and change the past, no matter how much you wrestle with the notion. You can, however, begin to assume responsibility now – with the factors as they now are – and move forward as constructively as possible.
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I find it exciting to recognize the past for what it was and in moving upward from a perceived awful thing acknowledging a new found joy in life. Like Annie’s words ” what we have to get over somehow we do.”
Something that has helped me to find ways to continue moving on is something a friend of mine said to me during a conversation in considering something I wished never had happened to me. He advised me to “turn remorse into education.” I have marveled at these words as a significant impetus to change my perspective regarding something I felt bad about. It since has morphed into further transmuting remorse into sharing what I know of “the glory of life.”