One of the hardest things to find when you’ve been hurt by another is common ground with that person. Hurt clouds judgment and mars the lens through which you view the world. If you’re not careful, the occasional injustices you’ve suffered might even dim your view of all of humanity.
If you’ve been hurt, and we all have, then you know you have a choice to make in that moment: you can either dedicate yourself to avenging the injustice or you can forgive, rise up, and move on. You make that moment either a moment of truth or a moment spiraling misery. You can either poke and provoke to secure more evidence in your case against someone or you can take the high road and look instead for the mercy of common ground.
Common ground – and not the expectation of gratitude – reopens the lines of communication whenever an injustice or the perception of injustice has occurred.