“Sheltered behind the wall of repression our kindest thoughts, our deepest feelings of appreciation, are worthless unless translated into word or act that make them real to hungry waiting ears, or eager watching eyes. Corked up in the silence of the unspoken, they do not exist. It is only expression that counts. All the light, heat, electricity and other forces of the sun would be useless if kept close-hid within its heart; it is only because they are expressed, because they are continuously radiated, because the earth is ever bathed royally in them, that the earth exists. It is not what the sun is, or what it has, that counts, but what it gives. It is not the feeling, the friendship, the love, the appreciation or the kindness we have, that counts, but only what we express, what we reveal, what we radiate. Then do we tear down a wall and make an open road to the hearts of others.” ~ William George Jordan
There is no point to playing Jedi mind tricks on yourself when considering your sense of self. It does not matter if you have an inflated sense of self or a self-esteem issue, because at the end of the day you cannot change the fact that you are what you express.
An old friend yesterday who told me that one of his central concerns in life is with constant refinement of who he is and what he provides in his service to others. We didn’t talk much about the point but I thought about it all afternoon. What a great way to live life! In so doing you can be assured that from the standpoint of your expression (and therefore the revelation of who you are), each day promises to be the worst day of the rest of your life.
Refinement is not a show, neither is it a pretense. Refinement is the process of purging those elements in your expression that stand in the way, cloud or distort the expression of the real you and it comes as you release your grip on those elements in your expression or your character that are no longer fitting or relevant. Refinement, in essence, is the means by which you reveal in the temporal who you are in the eternal.