That which you emphasize determines in large measure the nature of your experience.
When you are grooming or clothing yourself, for example, it might be worth looking at whether you spend more time covering up that which you don’t like or if the greater part of your emphasis is on highlighting that which you do. The former approach constrains to greater self-consciousness, while the latter tends to enhance self-confidence.
The same could be said about your dealings with others. If you tend to focus on the deficiencies, quirks and irksome qualities of those with whom you associate, you will likely dwell in a permanent state of agitation. If, on the other hand, you train your attention on that which you appreciate, enjoy and respect about those around you, the “less-than” qualities will tend to fade into the background and you will likely find that your presence magically, or perhaps better put, magnetically, draws forth their finer qualities.
This law of living is simple, but profound.