You are Phenomenal!

I read an interesting article by Dr. Walter Jacobson, M.D. in the Huffington Post yesterday evening. Entitled “How to Succeed in Business by Spiritually Trying,” the article points out that the subconscious mind in many people is programmed to self-sabotage, despite the conscious mind’s best efforts to take steps that lead to self-improvement. Dr. Jacobson notes that: “Unconsciously, our resistance to change is great, and our resolve to put into practice the principles and techniques we’ve learned is weak” and then goes on to elaborate on steps that can be taken to shore up this common weakness.

The fear of failure in most people is matched by the fear of success. These two fears account for the overabundance of mediocrity in the world today, for they have the power to nullify even the boldest attempts to rise above the common herd. In both cases the individual feels he is not worthy of what will come back should he make the attempt and this is enough to stop most people from ever trying to rise up.

When you are out of position – the one that is rightly yours to occupy – for any amount of time, shame begins to set in. It may be unconscious, but it is there. The underlying shame is further cemented in by the fact that people tend to react to others pointing out that they are out of position – blame, self-pity, anger, revenge, taking their ball and going home – and you begin to see why so few people manage to get outside of themselves to the point where they can grow into their full potential.

So what steps can be taken to come out of this self-perpetuating state of failure and mediocrity?

According to Dr. Jacobson:

We must rid ourselves of the unconscious guilt, shame and self-loathing. Not a simple task. Nonetheless, a worthy one. And the way to do it is to be of service to others, to engage in estimable acts towards others as best we can without conditions, exceptions or expectations.

As we esteem others through our respect and service to help as best we can, we are esteeming ourselves and sending our subconscious the message that we are good enough. But that’s not enough. We must forgive ourselves as well if we are to eliminate the deeply submerged guilt and shame.

As we forgive others, which involves letting go of our harsh judgments of them, we are actually forgiving ourselves, letting go of our harsh judgments of ourselves. It’s Confucius’s law of reciprocity. It’s a “golden rule” sort of thing. It’s the way this world of ours works. It’s all projection. People are mirrors of our thoughts. Trust me, there’s a lot of that going around.

As we forgive others, we forgive ourselves. It’s as simple and as difficult as that. Esteem others, let go of judgments, resentments and anger, forgive others (for they know not what they do), among other things, and be of service to others.

We get out of ourselves. We get out of the crazy thinking in our head that makes us feel alienated and frightened. We help others. We count our blessings. And guess what? Things get better. Life gets better. Life has greater meaning in addition to greater clarity, direction, transformation, happiness, contentment and good fortune.

It really is this simple, yet your mind can play tricks on you if you are not careful! Whenever you hear “it is not that easy, you could never do that, you’ve got to look out for number one, nice guys finish last…” don’t fall for it! These are tricks and lies of a subconscious mind that is in need of purification and refinement. Your mind cannot cleanse itself, but you, by your thoughts, words and deeds righteously crafted, fitly spoken and carefully executed open the tap to the flow of life which is in and of itself clarifying, sanctifying and regenerative!

You are phenomenal if you give yourself half a chance!

17 thoughts on “You are Phenomenal!

  1. Kolya

    Thank you, it really is wonderful to hear that it is that simple, yet it requires our wholehearted and conscious participation in allowing our lives to be different

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  2. Ricardo B.

    News like this reaffirms my deepest hopes in that we can do something about our current crisis, in all areas of our lives. To shift our perception outward, to engage with others where there is true need, is where healing and rehabilitation begin. If we have been stricken with the diseases of pride, fear and loathing, then a cure must be at hand if we have yet not perished. As long as there is life in the body, it is redeemable. Look what happens at various hospital and prison settings where these ideas are implemented – people heal and develop a new identity, just through having to assist and care for someone besides themselves.
    The wise words of this doctor are good medicine. No need to just tell yourself you are a better person – just go and truly be someone of good cheer who can help another without ties or entanglements. Inspire the world around you and lift a burden where you can. These things have a funny way of coming back to you.

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  3. Colin

    The article by Dr. Jacobson was a very insightful piece. You might be dubious if you haven’t tried it before, but if you glimpse a life without a subconscious failure of success, you will be floored. He really hit the points that are necessary to a happy and successful life: service to others and forgiveness. Without these points, you can be unhappily successful or successfully unhappy, and that is it. This is the true key to happiness, as we have discussed in the past.
    The real insight was that forgiveness of others is actually forgiveness to ourselves. To let go of self sabotage, you can’t simply subconsciously forgive yourself, but by the mechanism of forgiving others, you will find that it will occur automatically for you.

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  4. Beth C

    I’ve always felt some dissonance in the admonition – ” You have to forgive yourself.” While true enough in one sense, in another it didn’t seem to work exactly that way. Forgiveness of others creates a different climate of mind and heart where forgiveness of oneself is possible and natural. Without that change in internal climate, just trying to forgive oneself seems to intensify the problem.

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  5. MMc

    So it is true we are our own worst enemy. It sure shortens the culprit list. There are challenges and threats outside of ourselves but we have a better chance of dealing with them if we aren’t a house divided inside.
    Great post thanks.

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  6. strawberryfields

    It’s interesting the title of the article was targeted for business. It is the business of living! I really enjoyed this post, thanks for your efforts Gregg.

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  7. Coco

    What a terrific article and post. Your explanation of the issue is one I have been aware of but your explanation of the solution is the most straightforward I’ve ever seen in print. I think the confused or seeming double talk that I’ve heard to explain this was possibly more of the tricks and lies of the subconscious to obfuscate. The following sentences can be game changers if we don’t dismiss them as, too simple.
    “As we forgive others, which involves letting go of our harsh judgments of them, we are actually forgiving ourselves, letting go of our harsh judgments of ourselves. It’s Confucius’s law of reciprocity. It’s a “golden rule” sort of thing. It’s the way this world of ours works. It’s all projection. People are mirrors of our thoughts.”
    Cleaning up our thoughts is not an easy thing, but if we keep scanning for inacuracy in them, rather like virus protection in a computer, we can change.
    Outstanding post this morning, thank you!

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  8. DeeDee

    Motivating title to start the day. I’d much rather influence my world with the qualities of being phenomenal than re-infect it with the wet blanket of mediocrity and doom. It CAN change with me! Have a great one!

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  9. Kelli Lorentzen

    I love how reasonable Dr. Jacobson’s insights are. Without the spirit of service in our hearts and through our actions we are doomed to mediocrity. Get over ourselves and DSFSQ!

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  10. Christie S.

    “…you, by your thoughts, words and deeds righteously crafted, fitly spoken and carefully executed open the tap to the flow of life which is in and of itself clarifying, sanctifying and regenerative!” Thanks for the reminder of my amazing superpowers – I won’t forget to use them today!

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  11. mchoya

    Insightful! I had to chuckle when Dr. Jacobson said “It’s as simple and as difficult as that.” It’s true! Why do we make something so simple soooo difficult?

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