Self-Reliance II

Your apprenticeship to life provides you with the opportunity to discover your weaknesses and overcome them before the stakes are raised. It matters not if your apprenticeship begins at 15 or 50, for life is merciful to those who yield to its fortifying spirit.

Overcoming weaknesses does much more than simply fill in weak spots. In fact, every weakness you overcome permits a great alignment of your body, mind and heart. When you are out of alignment, the power of your being cannot flow safely through you, a sad state that greatly limits your ability to realize your full potential. When you are in alignment, however, your energies are united and your effectiveness is multiplied.

William George Jordan tackled this subject much more adeptly than I ever could and I feel privileged to share his thoughts on the matter with you this morning:

Many of the alchemists of old felt that they lacked but one element; if they could obtain that one, they believed they could transmute the baser metals into pure gold. It is so in character. There are individuals with rare mental gifts, and delicate spiritual discernment who fail utterly in life because they lack the one element,―self-reliance. This would unite all their energies, and focus them into strength and power.

The man who is not self-reliant is weak, hesitating and doubting in all he does. He fears to take a decisive step, because he dreads failure, because he is waiting for someone to advise him or because he dare not act in accordance with his own best judgment. In his cowardice and his conceit he sees all his non-success due to others. He is ‘not appreciated,’ ‘not recognized,’ he is ‘kept down.’ He feels that in some subtle way ‘society is conspiring against him.’ He grows almost vain as he thinks that no one has had such poverty, such sorrow, such affliction, such failure as have come to him.

The man who is self-reliant seeks ever to discover and conquer the weakness within him that keeps him from the attainment of what he holds dearest; he seeks within himself the power to battle against all outside influences. He realizes that all the greatest men in history, in every phase of human effort, have been those who have had to fight against the odds of sickness, suffering, sorrow. To him, defeat is no more than passing through a tunnel is to a traveller,―he knows he must emerge again into the sunlight.

Those who have not yet come into their own are forever bemoaning their circumstances and blaming others for their inability to attain what they hold dearest. Those who have are not taken aback by the setbacks. They thrive under pressure. They relish challenge and they rise to the occasion, no matter how dark the hour or how unfavorable the odds.

6 thoughts on “Self-Reliance II

  1. Lady Leo's avatar Lady Leo

    I guess the most recent way to describe this is “putting on your big boy ( or girl) pants” or “man up”. In other words take responsibility for the situation or outcome. The buck can honestly stop with me, I will see it through.
    This becomes easier to do then a habit.

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  2. Fernando's avatar Fernando

    A few thoughts here…..seems like self-reliance is a quality which forces you to draw from your inner resources, which appear to be a vast reservoir of untold potential. The rub is that character flaws and weaknesses, however they’ve come about, prevent access to this treasure trove of sublime qualities. And so it is that life coaxes us to grow, to mature – ever nourishing and trimming us in the presentation of circumstance and challenge to overcome the things that would hold us back from natural fulfillment. It doesn’t seem like it stops there though, with just our own highly personal state of balance/alignment/contentment – for we are cogs in a wheel, cells in a vast body that conspire towards a greater unified fulfillment which has been the greater hope and dream since time immemorial.
    Eyes wide open! Great stuff to penetrate the armor, soften the defenses and yield!

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    1. Gregory Hake's avatar Gregg Hake

      The necessity is one of cultivated the outer capabilities to permit a greater expression of the inner resources. The outer skills are only a means to an end, a fact that many people fail to understand sufficiently.

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  3. Colin's avatar Colin

    You have really gotten to the heart of the reason self reliance is so important. It’s not so one can say “I can do x many things”, but because those things are used in life as paths to success. I think we are all lucky there is an apprenticeship phase to life, but no one can stay in that phase indefinitely. The stakes become real, and you either succeed or you fail.

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    1. Gregory Hake's avatar Gregg Hake

      The term ‘failure to launch’ comes to mind, a sad state where the individual fails or refuses to come into his own and subsequently is held in a state of apparent suspended animation. I say apparent because it looks like the individual is frozen in time and space but the reality is that he or she is in a certain state of decay.

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