“Who is wise? One who learns from all.” ~ The Talmud
My thought is morning is a simple one: learn from everything. Woe to the fool who learns lessons only when they arrive wrapped in gold or coated in sugar, for the best lessons life can give are frequently bitter to the belly, repulsive to the sight and objectionable to the mind.
If you are criticized by another – whether friend or foe – never turn it away without due examination. Ask yourself “is there any truth to this” and if so, “what can I do to handle it more effectively form now on?” Pay no mind to the barbs, thorns and childish jabs that come from those in your world who likely know better than to sink to that level. Defend yourself through radiance, forgiveness and righteousness and make the necessary corrections in your orientation, thoughts and function swiftly, quietly and so completely that the idea of turning back is not just unlikely, but inconceivable given your newfound resolve.
On this basis the rude, disrespectful and thankless expressions of those around you are transmuted into a more valuable form of energy. Channel that energy into more effective and more expansive service of others and you complete the cycle: cursing is transformed into blessing. And that, my friends, fills you with a deep sense of satisfaction and fulfillment that comes only to one who truly learns from all.
Gregory Hake 
The older I get the more I value learning and the more I enjoy it. I guess the real wisdom I have gained is that I realize there is always something to learn and if you keep your heart open you can learn from just about anyone. Sometimes it’s what NOT to do but it’s still can be a worthwhile lesson. I also agree with your point on how to defend yourself. Fortify yourself with forgiveness. That is still the strongest antidote to hate.
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Wow, what great advice – loved this, thank you.
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I also think that it’s true that is doesn’t matter whether someone is blessing or cursing you, ultimately. Of course I would rather have everyone blessing me, but only because I feel bad for the people that are cursing me. They are really only cursing themselves. Realizing this is one way to really let yourself learn lessons from others’ criticisms, because the emotional component is removed, and you can see the crux of what they were trying to say.
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Appreciate your opening this doorway, through which I will walk!
A perfect way to serve others, and transform what would typically grow reactivly, into creative expression, all the while generating personal victory!
Thanks Gregg, for this great outline in handling those ill things rightly!
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Some of my most valuable lessons have been my toughest circumstances. One lesson I learned at a very young age was to treat people kindly. Maybe the message you have to deliver is hard for some to hear but consistent kindness of heart can be the salve that makes it possible for any circumstance to be a valuable lesson and not a crushing blow. It’s always the choice of the hearer but kindness is a universal responsibility.
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