I’ve got the cure for the summertime blues. Or, in fact, for whenever you are in a funk. The easiest way to remember this cure is by its acronym: “D.S.F.S.Q.” It stands for “Do Something For Someone Quick!
New research from Harvard University shows that helping others catalyzes a “moral transformation” that makes people more capable when performing tasks that require physical endurance. For real! You can read a bit more about the recent research here: http://news.harvard.edu/gazette/story/2010/04/strength-in-naughty-or-nice/.
Helping others is a powerful remedy for just about any illness – mental, physical or emotional. How does it work? To begin with, man is a social animal, generally gregarious in nature. Social interaction is an important part of most people’s lives and no matter how you cut it, we need one another.
You might recall the elevator scene from the movie Jerry Maguire in which Tom Cruise and co-star Renee Zellweger saw a deaf couple sign the romantic phrase “You complete me.” If you missed that you might have seen Dr. Evil and Mini-Me share the same interchange in the second and third Austin Powers films. Regardless of your movie tastes, it is true that we do have the opportunity, if not the responsibility to complete one another. No single person is complete unto him or herself and complementation is the key to the survival and success of the human race.
The communications technology of the last century transformed the way we relate to one another. Much of what used to occur “kneecap to kneecap” now happens virtually. It is possible to live in near total isolation, much like the astronauts involved in the 520 day simulation of a Mars mission at the Institute for Biomedical Problems in Moscow (see http://www.space.com/news/record-setting-mock-mars-mission-begins-100603.html). But rare is the individual who can live in complete isolation with no requirement for interaction with others. We depend on one another.
What excites me about the new research coming out of Harvard is that there is documented proof of some of the many benefits that come from helping others. Combine that with a simple awareness of the needs of others and you have a recipe for success!
Experiment with this in the days to come. When you find yourself in a tight spot, D.S.F.S.Q. And when you do, you are wise to have no concern for the results. If you give genuinely, it won’t matter to you if the gift is accepted or rejected or even if it is thrown back in your face. You’ve done your part and as far as you’re concerned, that’s all that matters.
Have a great day, my friends, and enjoy the opportunities that come your way to help others. And remember, D.S.F.S.Q!
Thank you for taking the time to give us these keys! It is true that doing something for someone else has the tendency to make you forget about your own problems. It’s good to see this kind of thing being studied.
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Thanks for pointing out necessary factor about being aware of the needs of others in order to make this ‘experiment’ a success. I’ve got my work cut out for me today. Looking forward to it!
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Great idea in the article that doing good may be a breakthrough in success for dieters – “Perhaps the best way to resist the donuts at work is to donate your change in the morning to a worthy cause.” LOVE IT! It does make me realize there are many opportunities to include doing something for others in my decisions throughout the day. Important implications to consider here – thanks!!!!
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Great information, since we didn’t come with directions. It sounds like wanting to help each other is in our DNA, the “nature”. The “nurture” learning seems to be our upbringing, friends and where our interests lead us.
It appears the nature part was a gift from our creator and the nurture part is our choices, particularly as an adult.
Studies like this underline the value of kindness, helpfulness generosity and forgiveness in order to live a happy, fulfilling life.
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There really is no better way to give yourself a boost than to help someone else. You are right that sometimes it is not well received at the time but the gratitude of those who do see and appreciate those little things either in the moment or some time later far out ways the any negativity or unresponsiveness. It is the small gestures that can make someone’s day turn for the better.
Have a great day!
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How simple, yet true! It really is liberating and fulfilling to help others and I can see how other capabilities would be increased as well.
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