Nothing to Stop Them

My sons and I take a few minutes every evening before bedtime to sanctify our hearts. My youngest made an interesting observation after we spoke about the importance of universal respect and while I don’t recall the exact words, he said something to the effect that “Grown ups are better than kids at everything except for one thing: friendship.”

He told me that kids can make friends with anyone because there is nothing to stop them. He didn’t elaborate but I thought the point was brilliant for its simplicity and poignancy. Later last night I asked myself: “What stops me?” It’s a valuable question, one that forces you to take an honest inventory of your attitudes, beliefs, motivations and history of action (or inaction), as I’ve learned over the years that if anything can stop you, it will.

Take time today to consider what has tended to stop you until now – don’t underestimate the value of putting it in those terms – and list specifically how you can reorient your heart in relation to that element of frustration, constriction or restriction so that you can overcome it once and for all.

8 thoughts on “Nothing to Stop Them

  1. Ricardo B.

    This is something that I field constantly in my profession of healthcare. Constrictions and various frustrations conspire to choke the natural expansion of an individual’s purpose, whose gradual realization is the only thing that will bring solace to the agitated soul. I’ve come to understand that our main responsibility towards this is a genuine desire to first do no harm and second, keep honesty in all matters. This opens the floodgates of opportunity and blessing just itching to unite with and ignite the individual.


  2. Steve Ventola

    Thanks for your encouragement to look at what has tended to stop me until now. With just a moment of meditation it was good to look at what I thought has tended to stop me and then to see deeper that that was really not what has stopped me. With just a moment more it was easy to see the nonsense of seemingly interferences and acknowledge what is important now and to get on with my living.


  3. mchoya

    Sadly this tends to be true. I’m so glad you shared this point because I can be more conscious of making sure it isn’t the norm in my experience.


  4. Zach

    This insight really made me stop and say “Wow, that’s so true”. We get caught up in so many petty feuds and protections that we set our default to defense mode rather than automatically looking for how we can connect with another person.
    While a child’s approach is not always right for an adult, we can definitely use more of the innocence that a child has naturally. There is no need to lose our innocence, in fact we need to work hard at regaining lost innocence.


  5. David R

    This is a thought-provoker! Friendship is entirely natural, and naything that prevents or limits friendship is no doubt unnatural. It seems so easy to withdraw from others, and sometimes it is probably necessary, but I suspect we do so reflexively on many occasions so that we never discover the magic of what could be shared with another.


  6. Coco

    The purity of children sometimes allows them to cut right through the smoke and mirrors human kind has created and simply understand. Looking at the idea of friendship is a good example of how convoluted adult thinking can become. While children are able to meet each other in a moment and enjoy it, adults tend to size up circumstance and people based on an agenda. I think for most the agenda is very subconscious but never the less creates barriers. Good question to ask myself, thank you.


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