Making it Manageable

If our education had included training to bear unpleasantness and to let the first shock pass until we could think more calmly, many an unbearable situation would become manageable, and many a nervous illness avoided.” ~ Claire Weekes

In a world where most people are not consistently giving their highest and finest you are bound to run into unpleasant situations every now and again, if not daily. The world we have is the result of the choices we’ve made collectively, and no matter how perfectly you’ve carried yourself in the midst of the chaos you are bound to feel the results of poor choices being made elsewhere.

Ask the toe who in and of himself would be healthy and strong were it not for the mouth who found an overly rich diet irresistible. Gout may be his burden even though it might not be his fault directly. So it is in the body of humanity. We may not all be visibly connected to one another, but the causal ricochets of the choices made and actions taken by others impact us constantly.

Realizing this, we needn’t be shocked when things don’t go as expected or when we encounter an unexpected rough patch. You can broaden your scope of expectation – anything can happen! – and resolve to make the most out of whatever does.

The vicissitudes of life are much more manageable than some would have you think. If you didn’t learn this lesson at home or at school while growing up, who says you can’t learn it now?

6 thoughts on “Making it Manageable

  • I like your quote. I don’t think most are taught how to handle the vicissitudes of life . Most are taught to find who they think are responsible , assign blame and look to punish. It doesn’t usually alter the “vicissitude” or assist with a solution. Often I think it creates more of the same. It’s passed off as “doing something about it ” but I don’t see that it ever assists in learning to accept and get on after an unexpected set back.

  • This is a lesson that needs to be learned by everyone, period. People have developed many strategies to manage the difficult things in the world, but they are usually not so effective compared to waiting till the shock has passed and making your decision then. The less effective strategies might include things like avoiding conflict or always giving in to someone else’s viewpoint. Now sometimes you have to make a decision without waiting: this is where training under stress for the little things will help you when the big things come along. But the idea that you don’t have to necessarily meet force with force or someone’s emotions with an equally strong emotion of your own is one of the secrets to success. There is nothing wrong with taking the time to think about the best course of action.

  • We all inhereit consequences of the overall condition of the world and of the specific actions of others, and often enough those experiences are unpleasant to say the least. Rather than to react, complain or seek a ready ear for our concerns, we may as well recognize that the appropriate handling of such awkward things all contributes to the development of strength, wisdom and flexibility if allowed to do so. We don’t have to like something to take good advantage of it!

  • Thanks for your post. This is such an important topic. This would seem like such vital education for all to hear. Such words may be thought but not articulated. As they are they are a life giving reminder of how life can be lived here and now.

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