“This is certain, that a man that studieth revenge keeps his own wounds green, which otherwise would heal and do well.” ~ Francis Bacon
When you are consumed by bitterness, it spreads within you like a disease. Such bitterness may appeal temporarily to others who, fooled by grief, drawn in by sympathy or preoccupied by lust, join forces, but such alliances are rarely lasting and invariably self-destructive. Anger, hatred, and bitterness cause wounds to fester, relationships to disintegrate and mighty and noble souls to be chained to the earth.
“That which is past is gone, and irrevocable; and wise men have enough to do with things present and to come: therefore they do but trifle with themselves, that labour in past matters.” ~ Francis Bacon
This simple truth is the means by which the antipathy of others can be requited with kindness and forgiveness. Those who are stuck in the past live in prison cells of their own making. You needn’t speak ill of them, for your accusers cast themselves down. They don’t need any help making bigger fools of themselves, instead, they need quiet service, constant forgiveness and in most cases, respectful disregard.
“The best revenge is to be unlike him who performed the injury.” ~ Marcus Aurelius