You’ve probably come across the idea in your life that “everything happens for a reason.” People usually make this point known when they are suffering an ill of some unknown origin or counseling another who is moving through a difficult situation. Some say of the god they claim to worship, “God gave me this because he knew I could overcome it” or “God gave me this painful situation so that I could learn a lesson.” Others see the ill things they experience as the karmic “comes around” of a previous “goes around,” the natural returning cycle of an unbroken chain of cause and effect.
Contrary to popular opinion, not everything happens for a reason. Neither does everything that happens to you comes your way because of something you did or said. You are a member of the body of humanity. As a part of the body, you are affected by what the other parts of the body do and say, directly and indirectly. Because of this, you may be asked by your immediate circumstances to handle a mess that you didn’t create.
You can take full responsibility for everything in your world without being to blame for it. Likewise, you can handle everything in your world with honor and integrity, without blaming others for the messes you have to clean up that you didn’t create in the first place. Blame invariably gives evidence of the failure to assume personal responsibility at some level.
When a bad or unfair or unexpected situation comes your way, you have a choice. Either you make the best of it or you suffer under its “oppression” (a state that you create in your mind by viewing it as such). Everything in life does not happen for a good reason. Many things happen that are simply the result of the poor choices made by you or another member of the body of humanity. The best way I’ve found to deal with such matters is to handle it without blame, self-pity, complaint or accusation. So doing sends a signal of victory back through the same channel (and perhaps beyond!).
I find it hard to believe as so many do that a loving creator would conjure up or require painful circumstances for those loyal to him to learn lessons. Neither do I possess sufficient faith to believe that we are only here to learn lessons so that our perfect souls can be freed on earth in some future incarnation.
We have created this messy world for ourselves and we – if we wish to continue as stewards of this remarkable planet – must take the steps necessary to clean up our act. It is a deeply personal matter that begins with learning to assume responsibility for the creative handling of that which comes within our personal sphere of influence, no matter what its provenance or how we may feel about it.
That said, it’s not you against the world or you against the rest of the body of humanity. By taking this approach (i.e. eschewing blame or accusation and looking to be a part of the solution), you see more clearly how to bring others in who can help you make the best of what is happening. Your vision won’t be clouded by anger, futility, commiseration or hatred and on that basis your appeals for help will be heard and likely responded to more cleanly and quickly.